2nd in a series of muses about growing older.
Reality: You’re 60. You are not going to live till you are 120. Therefore your life is more than half over. You’re on the downside, no matter how good or bad it turns out to be.
At least when we turned 50 we could think “I could live to 100; that means my life is only half over, I’m still at the top of the arch we call life.”
So what is your perception about aging? I have many friends who are turning 60 this year and some are more positive than others. I asked some of my friends to describe aging as a title:
“growing older but not getting old”
“Always older, never old”
“What would your 90 year old self say to your 60 year old self?
My point is we do have some control in this process, and for me, I am working really hard on keeping that which I can control upward even as we start our downward trajectory. Think about it….what is more fun, riding your bike up the hill or riding it down? My challenge is to find the time to do what I choose to do and become serious about that bucket list.
A dear friend of mine gave me a journal for my birthday called “Start Where You Are” – a journal for self-exploration by Meera Lee Patel. It could not have come at a more opportune time. This journal asks guided, important questions, yet in a whimsical way, to clarify and frame what you find is important and necessary for the good life.
So when I think of the downward curve of the life-arch I think of the first 60 years as the hard journey up to the top. From here on it’s coasting and no brakes! Yippee!
“Old And Wise” (Alan Parsons Project)
As far as my eyes can see
There are shadows surrounding me
And to those I leave behind
I want you all to know
You’ve always shared my darkest hours
I’ll miss you when I go
[CHORUS]
And oh when I’m old and wise
Bitter words mean little to me
Autumn winds will blow right through me
And someday in the mist of time
When they asked me if I knew you
I’d smile and say you were a friend of mine
And the sadness would be lifted from my eyes
Oh when I’m old and wise
As far as my eyes can see
There are shadows surrounding me
And to those I leave behind
I want you all to know
You’ve always shared my darkest hours
I’ll miss you when I go
[CHORUS]
And oh, when I’m old and wise
Heavy words that tossed and blew me
Like autumn winds will blow right through me
And someday in the mist of time
When they ask you if you knew me
Remember that you were a friend of mine
As the final curtain falls before my eyes
Oh when I’m old and wise
As far as my eyes can see